But that can blind us to a very simple source of joy that's all around us. Our transcripts are provided by various partners and may contain errors or deviate slightly from the audio. A brief history of relationship research in social psychology, by Harry T. Reis, in Handbook of the History of Social Psychology, 2011. This week, in the final . That kind of detail may not appear. Go behind the scenes, see what Shankar is reading and find more useful resources and links. VEDANTAM: Well, that's kind of you, Lera. What we think of today as a word undergoing some odd development or people using some new construction is exactly how Latin turned into French. How do certain memes go viral? It's natural to want to run away from difficult emotions such as grief, anger and fear. My big fat greek wedding, an american woman of greek ancestry falls in love with a very vanilla, american man. This week on Hidden Brain, we revisit a favorite episode exploring what this culture means Jesse always wanted to fall in love. MCWHORTER: Oh, yeah, I'm a human being. Podcasters use the RadioPublic listener relationship platform to build lasting connections with fans. And you can just - it rolls off the tongue, and you can just throw it out. John is a professor of English and comparative literature at Columbia University. They're supposed to be painting something very personal. To request permission, please send an email to [emailprotected]. No matter how hard you try to feel happier, you end up back where you started. VEDANTAM: The moment she heard it, Jennifer realized mendokusai was incredibly useful. this is hidden brain I'm Shankar Vedantam in the classic TV series Star Trek Mister Spock has a foolproof technique for accurately reading the thoughts and feelings of others the Vulcan mind I am Spock you James our minds are moving closer most most here are kind of hard we have new technology that gives us direct access to the minds of others so Perceived Partner Responsiveness Scale (PPRS), by Harry T. Reis et. And they asked me all kinds of questions about them. The phrase brings an entire world with it - its context, its flavor, its culture. MCWHORTER: Language is a parade, and nobody sits at a parade wishing that everybody would stand still. If you're just joining us, I'm talking to John McWhorter. If you dont see any jobs posted there, feel free to send your resume and cover letter to [emailprotected] and well keep your materials on hand for future openings on the show. This week, in the second installment of our Happiness 2.0 series, psychologist Todd Kashdan looks at the relationship between distress and happiness, and how to keep difficult emotions from sabotaging our wellbeing. But what we should teach is not that the good way is logical and the way that you're comfortable doing it is illogical. They're more likely to see through this little game that language has played on them. Those sorts things tend to start with women. VEDANTAM: Lera now tries to understand languages spoken all over the world. You-uh (ph). VEDANTAM: This episode of HIDDEN BRAIN was produced by Rhaina Cohen, Maggie Penman and Thomas Lu with help from Renee Klahr, Jenny Schmidt, Parth Shah and Chloe Connelly. We talk with psychologist Iris Mauss, who explains why happiness can seem more el, When we want something very badly, it can be hard to see warning signs that might be obvious to other people. But I think that we should learn not to listen to people using natural language as committing errors because there's no such thing as making a mistake in your language if a critical mass of other people speaking your language are doing the same thing. And one day, I was walking along, and I was just staring at the ground. BORODITSKY: Yeah. Researcher Elizabeth Dunn helps us map out the unexpected ways w, Having a sense of purpose can be a buffer against the challenges we all face at various stages of life. John, you've noted that humans have been using language for a very long time, but for most of that time language has been about talking. 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Think back to the last time someone convinced you to do something you didn't want to do, or to spend money you didn't want to spend. What do you do for christmas with your family? BORODITSKY: Yeah. BORODITSKY: It's certainly possible. So for example, for English speakers - people who read from left to right - time tends to flow from left to right. But that can blind us to a very simple source of joy that's all around us. But it's a lovely example of how language can guide you to discover something about the world that might take you longer to discover if you didn't have that information in language. And so I set myself the goal that I would learn English in a year, and I wouldn't speak Russian to anyone for that whole first year. How do you balance the imperative of teaching correct usage? Whats going on here? I'm Shankar Vedantam. UNIDENTIFIED ACTOR #1: (As character) If you're so upset about it, maybe you can think of a way to help her. Personal Strivings: An Approach to Personality and Subjective Well-being, by Robert A. Emmons, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 1986. But that can blind us to a very simple source of joy that's all around us. But if they were sitting facing north, they would lay out the story from right to left. Because it was. No matter how hard you try to feel happier, you end up back where you started. I had this cool experience when I was there. Imagine how we would sound to them if they could hear us. Language is something that's spoken, and spoken language especially always keeps changing. Rightly Crossing the Rubicon: Evaluating Goal Self-Concordance Prior to Selection Helps People Choose More Intrinsic Goals, by Kennon M. Sheldon, Mike Prentice, and Evgeny Osin, Journal of Research in Personality, 2019. And they have correlated this with gender features in the language, just like the ones you were talking about. And maybe the convenience store or the shop is really not that far away. All rights reserved. Parents and peers influence our major life choices, but they can also steer us in directions that leave us deeply unsatisfied. MCWHORTER: Those are called contronyms, and literally has become a new contronym. Or feel like you and your spouse sometimes speak different languages? UNIDENTIFIED PERSON #9: (Speaking German). In this week's My Unsung Hero, Sarah Feldman thanks someone for their gift more than 20 years ago. Copyright Hidden Brain Media | Privacy Policy, Read the latest from the Hidden Brain Newsletter. And as soon as I saw that happen, I thought, oh, this makes it so much easier. She once visited an aboriginal community in northern Australia and found the language they spoke forced her mind to work in new ways. They're more likely to say, well, it's a formal property of the language. Go behind the scenes, see what Shankar is reading and find more useful resources and links. VEDANTAM: So I want to talk about a debate that's raged in your field for many years. I'm shankar Vedantam in the 2002 rom com. The Effects of Conflict Types, Dimensions, and Emergent States on Group Outcomes, by Karen Jehn et. You can find the transcript for most episodes of Hidden Brain on our website. : The Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Benefits of Sharing Positive Events, Perceived Partner Responsiveness as an Organizing Construct in the Study of Intimacy and Closeness, Read the latest from the Hidden Brain Newsletter. And I was telling this person about someone I knew back in America. Perspectives on the Situation by Harry T. Reis, and John G. Holmes, in The Oxford Handbook of Personality and Social Psychology, 2012. Marcus Butt/Getty Images/Ikon Images Hidden Brain Why Nobody Feels Rich by Shankar Vedantam , Parth Shah , Tara Boyle , Rhaina Cohen September 14, 2020 If you've ever flown in economy class. Hidden Brain Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam Subscribe Visit website Shankar Vedantam uses science and storytelling to reveal the unconscious patterns that drive human behavior, shape our. As you're going about your day, you likely interact with family, friends and coworkers. You would give a different description to mark that it was not intentional. I think it's a really fascinating question for future research. He says there are things we can do to make sure our choices align with our deepest values. So earlier things are on the left. Which I think is probably important with the reality that this edifice that you're teaching is constantly crumbling. There's a lowlier part of our nature that grammar allows us to vent in the absence of other ways to do it that have not been available for some decades for a lot of us. Subscribe: iOS | Android | Spotify | RSS | Amazon | Stitcher Latest Episodes: Happiness 2.0: The Reset Button That's the way words are, too. And it irritates people, but there's a different way of seeing literally. What Makes Lawyers Happy? So to give you a very quick wrap-up is that some effects are big, but even when effects aren't big, they can be interesting or important for other reasons - either because they are very broad or because they apply to things that we think are really important in our culture. something, even though it shouldn't be so much of an effort. * Data source: directly measured on Listen Notes. The categorization that language provides to you becomes real, becomes psychologically real. You know, lots of people blow off steam about something they think is wrong, but very few people are willing to get involved and do something about it. And in fact, speakers of languages like this have been shown to orient extremely well - much better than we used to think humans could. There are different ways to be a psychologist. in your textbooks but when you're hanging out with friends. So they've compared gender equality, gender parity norms from the World Health Organization, which ranks countries on how equal access to education, how equal pay is, how equal representation in government is across the genders. BORODITSKY: My family is Jewish, and we left as refugees. And so for me, that question was born in that conversation of are there some languages where it's easier to imagine a person without their characteristics of gender filled in? JENNIFER GEACONE-CRUZ: My name is Jennifer Geacone-Cruz. And it's just too much of an effort, and you can't be bothered to do it, even though it's such a small thing. And then if you are going to be that elliptical, why use the casual word get? So that's a measurement difference of 100 percent of performance. And I thought, wow, first of all, it would be almost impossible to have a conversation like that in English where you hadn't already revealed the gender of the person because you have to use he or she. And if the word bridge is masculine in your language, you're more likely to say that bridges are strong and long and towering - these kind of more stereotypically masculine words. This week, in the fourth and final installment of our Happiness 2.0 series, psychologist Dacher Having a sense of purpose can be a buffer against the challenges we all face at various stages of life. Many of us rush through our days, weeks, and lives, chasing goals, and just trying to get everything done. We can't help, as literate people, thinking that the real language is something that sits still with letters written all nice and pretty on a page that can exist for hundreds of years, but that's not what language has ever been. When she was 12, her family came to the United States from the Soviet Union. And if people heard the sounds a little differently and produced them a little differently, if there were new meanings of words - very quickly whatever the original meaning was wouldn't be remembered. MCWHORTER: No, because LOL was an expression; it was a piece of language, and so you knew that its meaning was going to change. VEDANTAM: If you're bilingual or you're learning a new language, you get what Jennifer experienced - the joy of discovering a phrase that helps you perfectly encapsulate a feeling or an experience. But things can be important not just because they're big. It should be thought of as fun. It might irritate you slightly to hear somebody say something like, I need less books instead of fewer books. Whats going on here? Course Hero is not sponsored or endorsed by any college or university. Updated privacy policy: We have made some changes to our Privacy Policy. According to neuroscientists who study laughter, it turns out that chuckles and giggles often aren't a response to humorthey're a response to people. And there are consequences for how people think about events, what they notice when they see accidents. The fact is that language change can always go in one of many directions, there's a chance element to it. Each language comprises the ideas that have been worked out in a culture over thousands of generations, and that is an incredible amount of cultural heritage and complexity of thought that disappears whenever a language dies. Everyone wants to be loved and appreciated. So you can think about an un-gendered person in the same way that I might think about a person without a specific age or specific height or specific color shirt. Hidden Brain Claim By Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam Podcasts RSS Web PODCAST SEARCH EPISODES COMMUNITY PODCASTER EDIT SHARE Listen Score LS 84 Global Rank TOP 0.01% ABOUT THIS PODCAST Shankar Vedantam uses science and storytelling to reveal the unconscious patterns that drive human behavior, shape our choices and direct our relationships. - you would have to say something like, my arm got broken, or it so happened to me that my arm is broken. Maybe it's even less than a hundred meters away, but you just can't bring yourself to even throw your coat on over your pajamas and put your boots on and go outside and walk those hundred meters because somehow it would break the coziness. Copyright Hidden Brain Media | Privacy Policy, direct support to Hidden Brain by making a gift on our Patreon page, sponsorship opportunities on Hidden Brain. So if the word for death was masculine in your language, you were likely to paint death as a man. I said, you know, this weird thing happened. All rights reserved. But they can also steer us in directions that leave us deeply unsatisfied. VEDANTAM: (Laughter) All right, I think it might be time for me to confess one of my pet peeves. Purpose can also boost our health and longevity. In The Air We Breathe . This week, we continue our look at the science of influence with psychologist Robert Cialdini, and explore how these techniques can be used for both good and evil. All sponsorship opportunities on Hidden Brain are managed by SXM Media. They are ways of seeing the world. BORODITSKY: Well, there may not be a word for left to refer to a left leg. What techniques did that person use to persuade you? al (Eds. Many of us rush through our days, weeks, and lives, chasing goals, and just trying to get everything done. I'm Shankar Vedantam. MCWHORTER: Yeah. But if he just bumped into the table, and it happened to fall off the table and break, and it was an accident, then you might be more likely to say, the flute broke, or the flute broke itself, or it so happened to Sam that the flute broke. Of course, you also can't experience anything outside of time. Growing up, I understood this word to mean for a very short time, as in John McWhorter was momentarily surprised. 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